Tips for Guys - Dating that Singapore Indian Gal!!

Ask any of the dudes who hang out on this site, what motivates them to do so and probably they'll quip instantly, "Get to know more chicks lah!"… But how successful are these fellas in getting d gurl they fancy to reply to their sticky note or virtual kiss. Even then, how many of 'em could get the ladies to give em their emails addys or even contact numbers?? Maybe, only a handful….

So here are some helpful tips for all Si guys out there… "Date-that-SI-Gal Power Mantra"

SI team therefore caught up with a couple of Si gurls and came up with a "Date-that-SI-Gal Power Mantra" especially for the SI guys who want to become a Romeo in the eyes of the opposite sex. If you follow most of these mantras religiously, we guarantee success in your romantic and even social life with that dynamic Singapore Indian Gal!!

Indian gals of recent times are mostly modern, independent and sophisticated. They are not traditionalists nor shy ones. Albeit, we'd say they still successfully manage to retain their traditional values though they have assimilated into Singapore's modern societal morals. Indian society here now accepts friendship with the opposite sex openly and it's becoming lesser of a taboo to move from one relationship to another till you find the right one to settle down with. Most Si gerls value a good education or a skill to make it in the man's world! So hey guys, you need more than it takes to hook that SI gal now then say a couple o' years ago!

Power Mantra 1…Get all Sticky!

So you think the best pickup line in the sea gets you more mermaids? Well, think again! When you send a Virtual Kissie or Sticky Note to a gal you fancy, what does she do first? Read what you asked or said in the v.k or s.n? Ahhhaa, wrong! Well, at least that's what most gurls said when asked. They'd actually, first click on your profile to gain more knowledge about you. She tries to assess you by what you typed in your profile, and mebe how you look! A witty, intelligent and interesting profile might get you a reply even if your first note may be the silliest you ever sent! So fellas, you might wana go 'update your profiles' to see how u'd wana spruce it up a lil….

Power Mantra 2..Just be yourself!

Says Rani, 29, "I like quiet guys who are confident about themselves and not insecure". The fact that you try to "action" or act macho to impress the gurl profusely might just fall flat on you. Some of the gurls say our males have a tendency to show off their possessions like their cars, motorbikes and even walk and dress like blacks to show, "I've got style man!". Hmm….mebe that'll attract some kinda gurls, not most! Come on, they dun need to see all that. You are juz sending signals that you aren't confident about yourself and are merely attempting to hide your insecurities by flaunting those assets and put-on mannerisms. Just BEAR UR SOUL; be confident yet humble. Simply, juz be "YOU"!! She'll want to meet you or talk to you for your "wat-u-c-is-wat-u-get" approach… Says Asha, " I would take it further with a guy who would make the effort to talk to me for a long time and I need to be able to trust him"

Power Mantra 3…Woah- u got a life man!

If you lead a boring repetitive life and not an all-rounded one, its tough getting a gal really interested in you. Mind you, gurls really get gaga over guys who do sports or some kinda activities like parasailing, or even dancing. It reveals another aspect of you…Even if you aren't a good conversationalist but can play a song on your guitar over the phone, she might just get swept off her feet. For guys who are mostly less sociable and introverted, you might have an inert talent in the arts and it'll be a waste not to bank on it! Brush it up or find a new activity you like and then impress her subtly with it and hey you'll be on your way to a great romantic roller coaster!

Power Mantra 4... I'm all ears babe!

When you start off, it pays a lot to make her feel like the "Queen of your deck of cards". By listening, we refer to her verbal communications and even the non-verbal ones. She might say, that she is having a problem with her mum or issues with her friends. When you actually empathize and try to find out more and even offer solutions or liven up her spirits, it'll be truly hard to forget what you did for her. Even more you score, if you listen to her non-verbal cues like crack in her voice, sighs, tone and pitch. They value a guy who can detect her true sentiments and who tries to help her talk about it. They equate your efforts as "connecting" & placing them high in your priorities and believe us, they'll be so touched…aaawww!!.

Ps: But, hey dun fake it la, be genuine if you really care about her!

Power Mantra 5…Thinker!

Most Si gurls are expressive and knowledgeable. Nothing impresses her more than a guy who knows a lot and who's able to hold his own opinions on things. They value intelligence high in their priorities so hey guys keep reading up on current affairs or discuss issues with her. You'll never have a boring day thereafter…

Power Mantra 6…Who rulez?

Traditionally Indian women are expected to be submissive to the opposite sex. Guys please wake up and look around you. Things have changed especially in the aspect of gender equalityBut the beauty of an Indian gurl still remains, most say they will still accord basic respect to a guy and it has to be a two-way thing. Exchange should be fair and compromising to have a great relationship going. They still love a SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guy) who is career-oriented and who also does not mind giving her a hand in the kitchen when you visit her. Now that, they say is a sexy, irresistable mix….

Power Mantra 7… I'll take care of ya!

Accept it or not, the female species prefer financially independent males. They equate a good profession with the man's drive for hard work and success and eventually to provide for her. This is no different for a SI gurl. Most of 'em value their jobs and they dun wana hang out with a fella who fleeces all her bucks and leaves her high and dry! So fellas, make success be it in education or profession, your priority and believe us, all the gals will come lookin' for you with absolutely no effort on ur part!

"First Date Tips"

When you come down to the stage of meeting her, salutes to you! If a gurl thinks, "Hey this guy seems kewl enough and I wana know more about him", then you have got the basics right!! Need some ideas SI gurls said they'd love and beg you for more on that first date???

" Dun pay it safe!-One dating guru once said, "You can't bore a woman into feeling attracted to you." Talking about BORING things like jobs, family, weather, etc is not exciting really.. Gals get attracted to bold, exciting men who lead them. So dun play it safe following her lead, not saying anything making sure that you're "proper".

" Take her somewhere that has a lot going on... somewhere that has interesting conversation built in. They'd enjoy being in funky areas that have lots of eclectic, artsy, trendy shops or activities. You can't walk through one of these areas without having an interesting conversation. Places like Esplanade, Clarke Quay, Mohn Sultan or even Holland Village will be fun!

" Don't be unpredictable- Learn to say random things intelligently. Disagree with her graciously. Share with her that you secretly think Simran is really dumb. She'll sit up straight on her seat and wana hear you explain why!!

If you're boring, read a couple of books or read up on trivia on the net or some witty jokes to get her interested and hooked! Si gurls say they'd rather be with an interesting, fun guy than with a RICH, HANDSOME, PREDICTABLE, BORING one.

JUST DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO AVOID BEING PREDICTABLE!

Remember Women don't "choose" to feel ATTRACTION.BANG! It just happens so you need to know how to switch that button on..